How to Love Like a French Woman?

Really?  How To Love Like A French Woman.

This article irritates me.  It’s kind of like the annoying book which I did read, French Women Don’t Get Fat except they do.  See:  Actually French Women Do Get Fat and French Women Do Too Get Fat and French Women Do Get Fat and French Women Do Get Fat According to Obesity Figures.  **See random magazine article/photo featuring and celebrating attractive plus size French model.

Thank god for statistics and courageous people who like nothing more than to implode urban mythology!

All right so… apparently American women, on dates, are guilty of the following–

1.  TMI.  Discussing our entire life history, i.e., pathology, on the first date.  I don’t know about you but I do remember dating and I distinctly remember trying to make a good first impression on a first date.  The last thing I wanted was for my date to learn anything about the awful pathology surrounding my family and/or anything about my own muddied past.  

2.  We are guilty of thinking in terms of yay or nay, making checklists of what we want and don’t want.  Either he’s our soul mate, our prince charming, and we’re going to marry him and live happily ever after because he’s perfect or he’s a complete and total loser.  There is no middle ground for American women.  I dated many men, I even married a couple.  I wasn’t looking for perfection because perfection doesn’t exist, but after screwing up big time I did set a few standards.  I see nothing wrong with standards such as – He will not beat me.  He will  not cheat on me.  He will not use drugs.  He will be able to hold a job.  He will want children.  He will be willing to support said children.  He will be kind to animals.  He will not be a criminal.  He will not try to burn the house down with me inside.  Do you see where I’m going with this?

3.  We believe in true love instead of gradations of love.  Hmmm.  Apparently French Women view love as a ‘spectrum of possibilities’.  Whatever that means.  Kind of like Prince Charles’ answer when he was asked if he and Diana were in love– “Whatever in love means…” and we all know how well that turned out.  I am reminded of my free love days.  Remember the old song?  If you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.  I don’t think one night stands or passionate affairs of the heart sans commitment are specific to French Women.

The article goes on to state:

4.  French Women are less committed to the idea of marriage because they are more cynical about marriage because they understand the vagaries of love and marriage.  They are more apt to choose co-habitation over marriage.  Thus their divorce rates are lower.  “The French are simply more willing, again, to accept that love and passion might not last forever with one person.”  If I may add– if passion fades, then what about friendship, respect, commitment, trust?

I have to ask, is this a model we should emulate?  Go, read, let me know what you think.

Further considerations–

From the BBC, the EU’s Baby Blues.

This article – really interesting.  Not for me for oh-so-many reasons.  Besides, nobody throws away my flip-flops.  Never Moan About Ze Mistress:  How to Survive as a French Wife.