Wicked Wednesday and Romance Author Sharon Buchbinder!

Welcome Sharon!

Welcome Sharon!

Sharon Buchbinder is a wonderful friend and a great writer.  And we’re both nurses except she’s got her PhD.  Dang her!

I’m happy to announce her new release:  Obsession.



Near Death Experiences (NDEs)

When I first started writing Obsession, I wanted to accurately describe my heroine’s near death experience (NDE) during childbirth. In college, I was fascinated (some say obsessed) with NDEs. I read Raymond A. Moody, Jr’s books on the topic, as well as Kenneth Ring’s research and the Tibetan Book of the Dead.

As I reached out to others in the romance community about this topic, I made the acquaintance of a wonderful woman, Julia Barrett. We corresponded and became friends. Over time, I realized my fascination with NDEs was because I had had an NDE, too. However, I had never labeled it an NDE because I didn’t see a light or an angel. In communicating with Julia, I realized that NDEs have some core characteristics in common. However, each one is different. Julia met an angel, or as she called him, a companion. I never met anyone—except the police officer who brought me back to life.

I was fifteen. I was in our basement and reached behind the clothes dryer to pull something up—and completed a short circuit. Numb, unable to speak, seizing violently, the world became a black tunnel, then a sucking vortex that swept me away. No one leading me to the light. No companions. No angelic chorus. Just blackness. And a great sense of peace. Pain-free, I was okay with wherever I was. That didn’t last long.

I came to with a police officer, for whom I was supposed to babysit that evening, pounding on my chest, giving me CPR, dragging me back to this world, my entire body shaking, a stinging burn on my arm from the electricity (I still have the scar). Worst of all, my mother was going to be really, really pissed at me. I remember telling the police officer I was ready to babysit for him. I was that anxious to get away from my mother’s wrath. He kept shaking his head, in disbelief, saying, “No, you’re not. You’re going to the hospital.”

In Obsession, the heroine, Angie, struggles with believing she had a near death experience, as I did. Her intellect tells her there is no such thing as dying and coming back, no dark tunnels, no angels, and that the hormones of pregnancy and childbirth created a neurochemical stew that scrambled her brain. No plot spoilers here, however, I do have a question for readers? Do you believe in NDEs? If yes, have you had one? What occurred to convince you that it was real?

I will select one lucky commenter to receive one e-copy of his or her choice of books from my back list (available to US and International readers).



A desperate mother.

A Mexican druglord.

A dangerous match.

A year after a barbaric childbirth, complete with a near-death experience and an encounter with her guardian angel, Angie Edmonds is just happy she and her son, Jake, are alive. She’s finally in a good place: clean, sober, and employed as a defense attorney. But at the end of a long work day, she finds herself in a parent’s worst nightmare: Jake has been kidnapped and taken across the Mexican border by a cult leader who believes the child is the “Chosen One.”

Stymied by the US and Mexican legal systems, Angie is forced to ask the head of a Mexican crime syndicate for help. Much to her chagrin, she must work with Alejandro Torres, a dangerously attractive criminal and the drug lord’s right-hand man. Little does she know Alejandro is an undercover federal agent, equally terrified of blowing his cover—and falling in love with her.


Buy Link for Obsession http://www.amazon.com/Obsession-ebook/dp/B00CGOGT12/

Obsession Book Trailer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1kujUWoGbk


Author Bio and Links

After working in health care delivery for years, Sharon Buchbinder became an association executive, a health care researcher, and an academic in higher education. She had it all–a terrific, supportive husband, an amazing son and a wonderful job. But that itch to write (some call it an obsession) kept beckoning her to “come on back” to writing fiction. When not attempting to make students, colleagues, and babies laugh, she can be found herding cats, waiting on a large gray dog, fishing, dining with good friends, or writing. You can find her at www.sharonbuchbinder.com


Paranormal Romance Guild Winner Best Mystery/Thriller, 2012


Where Sharon Buchbinder can be found on the Internet

Website/Blog http://sharonbuchbinder.com/blog/

Amazon http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B001IODIE2

Goodreads http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4417344.Sharon_Buchbinder

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sharon.buchbinder.romanceauthor

Twitter @sbuchbinder https://twitter.com/sbuchbinder

(Note from Julia… This book looks so good!  It’s on my read as soon as possible list!)


If anybody says dogs don’t go to heaven…

Once upon a time I read a book written by a woman who claimed to have died (unwitnessed) and gone to heaven.  I was willing to suspend disbelief until she stated the following~ only True Christians go to heaven.

My Christian friends will have to forgive me, but when I read those words I knew she was full of shit.

Anyone who has had an NDE, a Near Death Experience, will tell you heaven is not exclusive.

I’m Jewish, among other things.


I was part of a study about NDEs in children and adolescents.  I was asked a question, a silly question, which made no sense to me at the time.

The grad student doing the interview asked, “Do you wear a watch?”

I said, “No.”

She asked, “Why not?”

I said, “Because they just stop working.  They break after a few weeks.”

She asked, “What do you mean, they break?”

I said, “Well, they quit working. I went through nursing school without a watch because they kept breaking.  When I graduated from nursing school my aunt gave me a really nice Swiss watch.  Within six weeks it stopped working.  I took it in to be fixed twice, but the watchmaker couldn’t find anything wrong with it, so…”

She asked, “Did you buy another watch?”

I said, “I bought a couple of cheap watches, they broke too.  I’m a nurse, but I don’t wear a watch.  I depend upon wall clocks when I take vital signs.”

I learned later that people who have experienced NDEs all say the same thing~ They don’t wear watches.  Watches break or just stop working.

Weird, huh.  As far as the significance goes, your guess is as good as mine.

So yes, NDEs… I remember everything that happened when I was dead.

I remember when I was dead everything made sense– but if you ask me ‘what’ made sense I couldn’t tell you.  Maybe it was like this– I had no more questions.

I remember what I was told before I came back.

Yes, I left my body.  I watched everything happening below me.  I didn’t care about my body, it was nothing more than an empty shell.  I cared about my sisters.  I was sorry they had to see me die.

I was pulled away by ‘someone’.  He didn’t identify himself but he was very familiar to me.  We surfed on a wave of light and I remember reaching the speed of light and crossing over.  Before we reached the speed of light, I could still differentiate ‘things’.  Once we crossed over a threshold, all things became one thing and nothing at the same time.

I saw God~ I’ll describe Him tomorrow if you really want a description.  I saw what I suspect is His other aspect, like two sides of the same coin.  I saw heaven.  I saw what I can only describe as hell.

My companion stayed with me the entire time.

I didn’t want to come back here.  I begged to be allowed to stay, but I wasn’t dead enough.  And so I was sucked back into my body– which was the only time I experienced fear.  Claustrophobia would be a more apt term for what I felt.

I was sucked back in and smacked against the inside of my skull.  Panic stricken, I struggled inside my body. The man with me smoothed me into my limbs.  He sort of melded me into myself.

And then I felt pain.

There’s a baseball player whose father had an experience almost identical to mine.  Can’t remember any names, but when I read his account I recognized it as truth.

All right, that’s enough for now.  I am still super tired and have re-writes staring at me.

Be well.  Julia

P.S.  Thanks to the men and women in our Armed Forces and our Veterans everywhere.





Sex, heaven and the quest for Nirvana.

Hubby and I have this on-going argument – I say, “I’m coming back to this life again and you’re coming with me.”  He says, “Well, what if I don’t want to come back with you?  What if I’m done with this life?  What if I’ve repaid all my karmic debt and I don’t want to come back?”

“You’re coming back and you’re coming back with me and you’re coming back as a man because I like being a woman, we’re so multi-orgasmic. YOU’RE COMING BACK! I’ve repaid my karmic debt and I’m coming back, the psychic said so.”

Hubby – “Well if you want to come back, obviously you haven’t paid your Karmic debt, you’re not ready for Nirvana.”

Me – “Of course I’m ready for Nirvana, (ego much?) but I don’t want Nirvana.  I want drama.  I love drama.  And sex, I love sex.  I’m not sure you get sex in Nirvana.”

Hubby laughs.

Me – “And the pets are coming back and everyone in our families because that’s what I want.”

Hubby – “Yeah, I want Louie to come back.  I miss him.  If Louie comes back, I’ll come back.”

“Me too.”  Sigh.  “Jake is great, and I totally love him, but Louie was a special being.  Wait, you’ll come back for the dog, but not for me?  I think I’ve been insulted!”

Hubby – “Wouldn’t you come back for the dog?”

Me – “I guess I would.  I’d probably come back for my horse.  I love the roller coaster that is this life.”

So why am I thinking about this?  A friend of mine died during surgery.  She coded and it took six doctors to resuscitate her.  She was on a ventilator, unresponsive, for six days.  And then she came back.  She confided her experience to me today because she knows I died in an accident at the age of 16 – but I didn’t die enough so I was sent back.  I totally believe her account because of the following -

1.  She returned knowing that love is all we take with us.

2.  All her existential questions were answered when she was dead, but she no longer remembers either the questions or the answers, she just knows she knew when she was dead.

3.  Nobody sat in judgment.  She assessed her life and her issues by herself, with guidance from another person, a male person whom she cannot describe, other than to say she sensed it was a he.

4.  The colors of heaven made the colors of earth look like mere shadows.

5.  Her only concerns were for the people she left behind.

6.  She still felt like she inhabited a body.

7.  Despite the fact that she’s a Christian and has always believed Jesus is THE way, she came back believing that your religion is of zero importance in the next world, it’s how you behave toward your fellow man in this world that matters in the next.

8.  If you don’t get it right, you come back until you do.

9.  The hardest part was coming back.

Yup – nailed it.  I will never believe anyone who claims to have had an NDE and says that only people of a certain religion get into heaven.  Never.  Gonna.  Happen.

Next ten books:

1.  Lady Chatterley’s Lover, by D.H. Lawrence

2.  Sons and Lovers, by D.H. Lawrence

3.  Mila 18, by Leon Uris

4.  Sacajawea, by Anna Lee Waldo

5.  The Handmaid’s Tale, by Margaret Atwood

6.  The Dragons of Pern – the entire series, by Anne McCaffrey

7.  Shogun, by James Clavell

8.  One Hundred Years of Solitude, by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

9.  The Poems of Lao Tzu, by Lao Tzu

10.  The Collected Works of Langston Hughes, by Langston Hughes