Truly, I am a bad girl. I’ve never valued delayed gratification, whether it comes to chocolate or sex. I mean, if I want chocolate, I eat it. If I want sex, I…but there’s no need to be graphic, plus my husband says I’m not allowed to blab about our personal life. And he trusts me to be discreet. LOL!
I speed. I hate waiting at red lights. I’ll turn right and right and right to avoid a stop sign. Traffic jams drive me utterly insane. However, hubby has taught me the value of slow. Kind of like the slow food movement, you know? He’s oddly Zen-ish for an intense, powerful, passionate man. I’m just intense.
He loves my contemporary, Pushing Her Boundaries. Of course he loves it since he lived it, but he loves it for another reason. He says the extremely long, pages long, maybe even an entire chapter long sex scene is so good that he can re-read it over and over again. It’s unlike my usual up against the wall - although a wall is in there too.
The author, the lovely, sensual author Katalina Leon and her work Noblesword, gave me permission to write a long sex scene. I’m serious. Noblesword is brilliant. Kat has written the first pages and pages long sex/sensual scene that works for me. She paints her scenes with the most vivid colors, sights, fragrances, sensations…
Most of the time when I read a long sex scene, I’m bored to tears. The ability to create a lengthy yet engaging sex scene is an art. Although I love writing sex scenes, I feared to attempt anything lengthy. I’d always been advised that sex scenes should be kept short. Kat changed my point of view entirely. Reading Noblesword was an epiphany. If you can make a long encounter between your characters smoulder, excite the reader (and your hubby because men ought to read romance), do it. Do it now!
Just like the act of foreplay, shaping an engrossing sex scene takes time, patience, thought, creativity and mindfulness. If you do it right, you create a warm, living, breathing, powerful, sensual encounter for the characters, one that resonates with readers.
I think I’ll write another one of these days. 
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OMG! Thank you for mentioning me in this beautiful blog! I love to drag things out in fiction and in real life. The ultimate fun for me would be a “slow food” tour of Italy or France coupled with a day long tease.
I love writing long sex scenes and I wrote them because I thought we “had to”!
I recently had the liberating revelation that it was perfectly okay to write short intense sex scenes that move the action forward. It’s a strange world.
XXOO Kat
When I was reading about you being impatient at red lights I was thinking about me. lol I’m terrible.
SOON….
I agree you should write another one someday!
Red lights give me a much needed break while driving. But after a 5 minute red light even I will become impatient. I cannot locate Noblesword. Steph
Happy birthday, Kat! Yum…a slow food tour of Italy! Count me in! How funny - you gave me permission to write slow and now you’re on the fast track!
Oh Amber, I hate red lights. Hate ‘em with with a passion!
Steph - find the book. It’s on Amazon. So worth the read/ride/experience!
Love this post. Piper’s Fury had a 10 pg long sex scene. Yikes, but it flowed really well because the build up was there and I had some humor in it to break the monotony of foreplay. lol. Great post. Hurrah to the epic sex scene!
I think a long build up to the scene is great. It is an art to not bore the reader if it is a lengthy scene. Although some are too short and it seems as if the author was embarrassed to write it.
Rachel - sometimes it does just flow and you have to go with it. When it works, it works!
Ciara - ICAM. Sometimes it does seem as if an author is embarrassed by a sex scene and so tries to get through it as quickly as possible.
I’m an impatient driver too.
I love long sex scenes…and mine are an average of about 3 pages.
PS. I’m presently eating a chocolate sandwich ice cream…slowly…one teeny sinful bit at a time.
Evie - LMAO!